We tell the same stories to ourselves over and over. That’s okay; people are comforted by the same themes and drawn to the same conflicts. Unfortunately, we also can repeat tropes just because we never thought critically about them. And when we do that, we end up telling people of different ages, races, and genders what their place is, just by assigning the same roles to them.
On the plus side, it’s fun to break free of those roles! Here are ten gendered story tropes that could use a reversal. I’ve done my best to provide visuals of what the reversed tropes might look like in popular media, but I’m not an artist. To signal which characters were male, I drew crude mustaches on them. Otherwise they’re female. Then I have written examples of how the tropes typically appear. Got it? Good, let’s go.
1. Girl Goes on Quest to Save Kingdom and Its Beautiful King
A terrible peril threatens the great land of Magicana and its kind and gentle king. Knowing there is only one hope, he calls for a heroine to arise and save the day.
Our heroine is just an ordinary girl from a small village, but she is brave and courageous. She travels through the land, facing vile monsters and overcoming tests of her strength and determination. When she is through, the king knights her in front of the kingdom, recognizing her as their savior.
Why doesn’t the king save his own kingdom? That’s silly. He can’t fight; he’s too beautiful and frail. Besides, he’d get his pearl-beaded robes dirty.
2. Young Woman Must Impress Protective Mother in Order to Date Her Son
When the young heroine and her love meet each other’s eyes for the first time, there is an instant connection. But alas! His fearsome mother doesn’t approve of the heroine and her kind. She forbids her son to see his love while she concocts a plan to end the heroine’s life. Desperate to save his love, the son agrees to marry another woman if his mother will just spare the heroine.
But this new woman has evil plans of her own. Luckily for everyone, the heroine reveals the bride’s treachery just in time to stop the wedding and save the day. The mother grudgingly admits that the heroine has done them a great service and gives the heroine permission to dally with her son.
They are too busy congratulating each other to remember that it’s his choice who he dates.
3. Attractive Husband Loves Older Wife for Her Brilliant Mind
She is the top scientist in the field of biotechnowizardry. Close to a major breakthrough, she works long hours in her lab. She’s so preoccupied with work that she forgets to take care of herself, so it’s a good thing she has a young husband to care for her. He cooks and brings her meals, then ushers her to bed every night.
When others come to their house claiming his wife’s latest experiment is a disastrous attempt at playing God, he defends her. More than anyone else, he believes in her and her work. Nonetheless, he lets slip the key information they need to trace the damage back to his wife, and they arrest her soon after.
Then he has an excuse to give up even more of his own interests, as he spends all his energy trying to free his incredibly important wife from jail.
4. Girl of Lost Heritage Discovers Mother Is Powerful Queen
No one knows where the heroine came from or how she ended up in the orphanage with nothing but a silver locket. Eager to discover who she is, she sets off as soon as she comes of age. In her journeys she saves many troubled people from themselves, until she finally comes to a land being ravaged by a dark and angry queen.
Captured by the queen’s henchwomen, she is about to be executed for her heroics when her locket catches the queen’s eye. It was a wedding gift the monarch gave to her husband. He disappeared with her baby daughter and heir only a year after. For the first time since, the Queen rejoices, declaring the heroine the crown princess of her realm.
In her spare moments, the heroine learns how kind and beautiful her father was before he died.
5. Woman Avoids Emotional Conversation Man Wants
She’s not the talkative type. She arrives in town, kills the undead, and leaves as soon as she’s paid. The only person she trusts is her younger brother, who she taught to hunt alongside her. She tells the terrorized villagers what to do and lets her brother dole out the sympathy.
But now they’re back in the town where their parents died, and her brother wants to talk about what happened and how maybe it’s time to stop being so angry about it. She doesn’t know how to handle all that emotional relationship stuff. Is she angry? Maybe, she doesn’t have time for pointless introspection.
That is, until she meets an entrancing and beautiful man who knows too much. Could she open her heart to him? Maybe once they have sex. But then he’s killed by their enemy. Crap.
6. Man Gives Woman Refuge After Daring and Reckless Battle
When he’s almost mauled by monsters in a dark alley, a mysterious woman comes to his aid, fighting them off. But she’s injured in the battle, and she refuses to let him take her to the hospital. Instead he takes her home and uses his previously unknown medical skills to patch up her wounds. She warns him that he should stay away from her. He doesn’t know anything about her, and everyone she loves gets hurt. He tells her he’s strong and can take care of himself.
He finds her leaving out his window the next morning. He asks if he can at least know her name. She tells him and disappears. Somehow, he knows she’ll be watching over him.
7. Woman Goes on Killing Spree to Avenge Dead Husband
Her new husband is sweet and innocent. He inspired her to leave her shady past behind and become a good citizen with a legitimate career. He forgave her for the terrible things she’d done. But during their honeymoon, some old enemies decided to settle the score. While she was down in the hotel lobby arranging something special, they broke into the hotel room looking for her. Since she wasn’t there, they killed her husband instead. She returned upstairs to find his dead body laying under the romantic candlelight and rose petals he had prepared.
Soon the police arrive, but they think she killed him. Now she’s on the run from the police and her old enemies. She brings out the arsenal of weapons she never got rid of and takes the battle to them.
That is to say, she’s going to kill A LOT of people without feeling guilty.
8. Beautiful Male Robot Programmed to Give Woman Love and Pleasure
She’s a busy executive with a neglected home life. She hires a new nanny, a gorgeous young man who is eager to please her. The kids love him. He cleans the entire house, makes dinner, and massages her aching muscles.
The next day, executives from another company tell her that the new nanny is a robot they sent to demonstrate their product. She sends them away and calls him right after, telling him that since he’s a robot, he isn’t needed.
Realizing he isn’t human for the first time, the nanny shows up at the woman’s house. He tells her he can’t stop thinking about her, but he doesn’t deserve her because he isn’t real. Touched, she insists he is real, and to prove it they have sex.
9. Heroine Must Protect Her Father and Brother
The heroine has superpowers she uses for good, but to keep her family safe, she hasn’t told them anything. One night they are attacked by her enemies. Her middle-aged father and teenage brother are frightened and confused by all the impossible monsters who flood into her home. They run upstairs and huddle together in the closet.
She tries to fight the villains off, but they get the better of her. They pull her father and brother screaming from the closet, and explain to the heroine that unless she does exactly what they want, her family won’t live to see the next sunrise. She agrees.
Little do they know that’s she’s prepared for their requests. She switched the serum they wanted with one that would take away all their powers. After they drink the false serum, they run away rather then face her wrath. Her father and brother hug her, crying in relief.
10. Egalitarian Society Has All-Female Leaders by Complete Coincidence
It’s the year 2500, and humans are visited by an enlightened society of aliens. They’ve been watching humans for thousands of years and have decided we are finally ready for advanced alien technology that will uplift our society.
The alien delegation arrives, led by their captain. She calls for her two female commanders and an accompanying female ambassador to meet with the human leaders, who happen to be black women. The aliens congratulate the humans on learning to value their differences by making sure all voices are heard. Now that once-oppressed groups like men and Caucasians have full equality, the aliens will gift humans with unimaginable technology. It is the biggest turning point in human history, and it’s all thanks to those eight females who met and decided to forge a peace agreement.
If these seem silly to you, remember that you see the same formulas in popular stories all the time, just with different pronouns. Before you regurgitate those patterns into your own work, do yourself a favor: learn what cultural baggage you carry. Only then can you unload it.
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